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Fall weddings are my absolute favorite! If you have been following my blog you probably already know this by now. You probably also know that I was married in the Fall, so of course I am just a little bit biased.
My Fall of 2017 was packed full of fabulous weddings. During the Fall wedding season I had the opportunity to work at many different venues, each of them very unique. I have worked at the Barn At Valhalla out in Chapel Hill once before, and I love every opportunity I can get to back to this gorgeous place.
The Barn at Valhalla is unlike any other event venue I have ever worked at. It is an adorable location for a small ceremony and reception, and the land has so many perfect spots for beautiful pictures. It is truly a serene setting for an Autumn affair. The property boasts an adorable barn with great big wooden doors, lots of lush land surrounded by the beauty of nature, and a large lodge with multiple rooms for getting ready, a kitchen and dining area, a bridal suite, and plenty of space for housing friends and family for the weekend.
Laura and Adam were such an adorable and laid back couple. They wanted a beautiful wedding, without all the hustle and bustle of most weddings, or so that is what they kept telling me. Instead, we hosted a less than orthodox outdoor wedding on a beautiful Fall day surrounded by family and friends, but also with lots of fun activities and food to eat. Rather than go with a long sit down dinner, Durham Catering provided heavy passed hors d’oeuvres and stations of appetizers. They didn’t want the night to feel overly formal, but also didn’t want a shortage of food, so Adam and Laura provided hours of mostly finger foods followed by a table overflowing with pies, donuts, and coffee accompanied by an ice cream truck!
In addition to all the delicious food options available to the guests, Adam and Laura provided a fun and beautiful backdrop along with some talented and truly fitting entertainment. It was important to them that their friends and family have a good time, and to them that meant having great background music to sing and dance along to. They found that their taste in music was rather eclectic, so they were very pleased when they found live musicians who could play their first dance and other off the wall music preferences.
Hearing the band, The Local Boys, play Harvest Moon by Neil Young and watching Adam & Laura perform their choreographed first dance was the perfect beginning to my Fall wedding season. As I listened to the band and watched them dance, I couldn’t help but reflect on how grateful I was to be working with a few of my favorite local event vendors, including my husband.
Every so often I am lucky enough to meet couples as a referral from another vendor friend of mine. Adam and Laura came to me as a referral couple from a close friend of mine in the industry, Randy Taylor of Randy Taylor Weddings. In addition to working with one of my favorite officiants in the area, Randy’s daughter Erica Taylor, I also had the pleasure of working with my husband, now Steffes Event Services as the photographer, and another great friend in the industry a Photo Booth owner, Bianca Taylor of Triple T Entertainment.
From time to time I really enjoy writing vendor spotlight posts. I think it’s important to highlight local vendors that I work with, so my audience knows who they are. I want you as my blog reader, and customer, to know my preferred vendors as well as I know them. I feel that the more comfortable you are with my network of professionals, the more comfortable you will be with me!
I recently had the opportunity to meet Lori D’Elia’s husband, William. He told me all about how he and Lori were married up in New York and moved to Raleigh, NC to pursue their entrepreneurial skills and build a life for their family here in Raleigh. Being that Lori offers Premarital coaching, I felt that my audience of brides and couples would benefit from hearing about Lori’s business.
D’Elia Family Solutions Counseling & Coaching
Name of Business Owner: Lori D’Elia
Business Category: Counseling and Coaching including Premarital Coaching
How long have you been in business?: I have been practicing since 2008, current business in Raleigh, NC since March of 2017
What is your mission statement?: “Taking the anxiety out of ‘honey, we need to talk.'”
What got you started in this business?: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist and am currently discouraged with couples coming in ready to divorce. I truly feel so much work can be done in premarital coaching. Couples are more receptive to listening when they aren’t in criss. It’s truly not as scary as it sounds. I promise.
What’s the best tip you have for a couple planning a wedding? Be on the same page with your partner. Don’t be afraid to talk about “hard” stuff. Not every conversation leads to conflict and we should learn how to effectively communicate with our partners, because this life stuff doesn’t get easier 😉
What don’t couples know about your business category that they should know?: How important it is!!!!! Premarital counseling is not a negative thing, it’s positive. Most men are opposed to it because 1. they don’t understand it and 2. they hate “talking”! It’s not scary, it’s easy and can actually be fun.
Are there any questions your non-wedding clients should be asking that they don’t know to ask?: Can we come for a session when things are “ok”? YES!!!! That is what premarital couples do. They aren’t in crisis. They come in to talk about topics that are prevalent in their lives, like adults. Not when they are screaming and yelling at one another and can’t “hear” what their partner/spouse is saying.
About Lori D’Elia
Lori D’Elia is a licensed marriage and family therapist in addition to a certified professional coach. She started practicing in 2008 working with individual, couples and families. She has since moved to Raleigh, NC with her husband and two children. After working for so long with couples on the brink of divorce she has decided to put her efforts into pre marital work in order to take a preventive approach when working with couples. Lori believes in pre marital work and feels it can help a couple better communicate once they are married and experiencing a marital argument (which is inevitable!) ;-). She is hoping to take the anxiety out of “Honey we need to talk” and express to engaged couples that they should talk before they walk.